This might be the single most powerful piece that shapes your teen: praying for them. Trusting God to do what you can not do. Asking the all-powerful, all-loving, all-knowing God to save, guide, direct and protect your teen!
Think about this verse: I Thessalonians 5:17 “pray continually”. Does this mean that we shouldn’t eat, drink, or work? Does this mean no more church or fun activities? Of course not! This means that in all things and at all times, we must pray. It means when you are stressed, you should pray. When you are grateful, you should pray. When your teen makes you laugh hysterically, you should pray. It means that when your teen makes you want to pull your hair out one by one, you should pray. It means when they make awesome choices and terrible ones, you should pray.
It means that you pray about everything. Here’s a few thoughts but certainly not an exhaustive list in no particular order of priority:
- Pray for their choices
- Pray for their friends
- Pray for protection
- Pray for their purity
- Pray for their salvation
- Pray for their spiritual growth
- Pray for their future spouse
- Pray for their health
- Pray for their humility
- Pray for them to learn as much as they can from school
- Pray for God’s will for their lives to be their heart’s desire
- Pray for your heart to be selfless and sacrificial as you parent them
- Pray that you won’t be tempted to build your life around them but understand your job is to lead them into God-focused independence
- Pray that you will love them more than you love yourself
- Pray for patience
- Pray for patience
- And once again….pray for patience
- Pray for them every time you think about them
- Pray for them when you don’t know what to say
- Pray for them when you know the right thing to say but your heart isn’t right
- Pray that they will be satisfied in God first and foremost
- Pray they would know every moment of every day, that God loves them so much He died for them
If there is anything more powerful than praying for your teen, then in 13 + years of ministry and 13 + years of parenting teens, I don’t know what it is. Praying does what I could never do. Prayer asks the one who knows all to move. What a great privilege it is to pray for our teens.
May God stir a desire in you to lean into this in a more motivated way than perhaps you have ever done before.